Last weekend I went to wedding banquet.
That was quite fancy celebration: lovely music, beautiful decorations… The restaurant was completely packed with hundred of people whom I haven’t met before.
I don’t really love big celebrations (I even hate an idea of wearing high heeled shoes).
I sipped some red wine and headed to the patio to get a breath of fresh air. Couple minutes later a man came up to me with a cigarrete in his mouth and began a conversation. Hmmm… Literally, he began a Monologue.
The man was a father of bridegroom and seemed to be bored with party also.
He told me lots of travel stories ( which I love!), so the monologue was quite curious and interesting.
I just kept nodding, wondering and saying “Hmmm”, “Really?”, “Wow!”… and sipping my drink.
But the point is I haven’t said a real word during our 20-30 min. “conversation”.
Next day few guests called me saing “The bridegroom’s father said you are a great conversationalist and he enjoyed your company so much… What have you been talking about?”.
I was quite surprised. I literally haven’t said a thing to be “nominated” as a good conversationalist.
Hah… Dale Carnegie was absolutely right saying the following:
Six ways to make people like you:
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
- Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
Such a curious experience…